Traits That Define Life

Our traits define who we are, how we act. They are how we are, how we react. Traits control emotions. Emotions are what we see of ourselves and how others view us. In this article, we'll outline the four primal traits we all share in our family of traits.

You know your family as the one you grew up with, but are you aware there's a different type of family that lives within you? They're as much a part of your life as your real family.

Two of the four primal traits are trait neutral, they share equal qualities of positive and negative. These are fear and ignorance. The other two are burdensome negatives by current societies standards. These are complacency and indecisiveness.

Evolution has dealt humanity an uneven hand, however, any one has a right to learn control of them.

Choices of a Child

At several different points in childhood there are two trait family types who apply to our minds. One is failure. The other, success. You're free to choose which one you invite into your life. Unfortunately, the wrong choice or complete imbalance is often the outcome.

Many of the mistakes you make belong to you now. It's best to own them. If a life based on negative traits was the choice you made, it wasn't your fault. You lacked the maturity at that time to make wise decisions.

Childhood was a critical time when your real-life family influenced the course of your life. You needed them to help you make the right decisions. If they were under the control of failure, this is a cycle which needs no explanation.


I'm Not Always a Failure.

No one is always anything. We're complex, human. What are you most of the time? There will come a time in your life when you can no longer hide from yourself. You will wake one day to realize your life was spent as a success or failure.

Failure is the result of insufficient resources. It's famous for rendering incapable of completing goals and tasks. When accepted failure is your influence, watch as good intentions drift downwards to settle on the floor of your soul.

These four primal traits are strongly interconnected. They form a union together and lead many a person down roads of anguish, depression, anxiety and feelings of a misguided life.

Attaining success means many things to many people, it isn't one thing though. It's ultimate is classification of overall contentment with choices and action.

The goal is success but it won't come easily. That is a good thing. If it were simply done, now that would be boring.

Success is grown. First inwards, then outwards. The polar opposite of failure, success comes in many forms and all of them will bring happiness.


Getting to Know Them

If you're living with Failure, these are the primary family members of the traits you possess.

The root traits of Failure.

Fear; The dream-killer, the life-giver.
Ignorance; An empty bucket with not a drop of water grows nothing. Blissful.
Complacency; The root of indifference and laziness. It's living suicide.
Indecisiveness; Society will make your decisions and rape your independence.

They've disgraced you, bled your soul, yet you still accept them for what they are. Your family of traits. In ways, much worse than anything your real-life family does or will do. They treat you like a dog. Kick you, punish for no good reason. Showing not an ounce of love or compassion for you, you hold an elementary cling to them as a familiar, worn blanket.

They don't act independently. Where there is one, the others are close by. They're devoted to each other, bonding in chain, confiding in each other for strength. They'll rule your life as a unit of pain.

You may think of the family of trait failure in this way. Failure has many different faces of personality as an extension of the four primary family members;
Fear
Ignorance
Complacency
Indecisiveness

Some of these personalities are procrastination, self-defeat and selfishness. We may also refer to them as lesser traits of failure. The root always lies within the primary four though.

All other negative traits can be attributed to one or more of the primary family as the source.

For example, let's suppose you have a problem with self-confidence. Reaching to discover, then apply ways or thoughts of mind to become more confident may not provide the results you'd expect.

What you will likely end with is false-confidence, telling yourself to, "be confident." It won't work. You will not feel genuine confidence by hacking at the leaves of the tree. Those you come across will see through the facade. You must attack at the tree's root source.

Lack of self-confidence is a personality trait of fear. Fear has many faces but only one base emotion. It is the most powerful negative/positive inborn trait known to man, displaying the yin/yang principle at it's truest in natural law.

We can trace it backwards.

Lack of self-confidence
Lack of self-respect
Not good enough to feel good about self
Not good enough for self
Not good enough
Have failed before and hurt
Fear of failure
Fear

Where Bad Habits Form

Choosing wisely, even as an unguided child may seem like an easy decision. Yet, so many of us choose the path of failure. Why is this?

Two of these traits come hardwired into you as an operating system is to a computer. Fear, with it's many faces is necessary to your survival. Without it, you may not last much past a few years because... Your were born ignorant, as is everyone.

Complacency and indecisiveness are the children of these traits. Most children naturally lean this direction. All it takes is unintentional parental absence to fall into, for lack of definition, be sucked into their black hole.

Could your failures be the effect of your parents?

Partly, but not entirely.

Nearly all parents try their best to raise their children with loving hearts. Most parents would do anything for their children and wish them nothing but success in life.

For those with loving parents, know that it isn't entirely their fault either. Remember, we are inherently born with these traits. Only a parent who has control of themselves in this capacity could ever hope to benefit their children the same. Some do, most do not.

Parenting is mostly an intuitive process, due to lack of parenting school funding. Give them a break if you aren't completely satisfied with how you turned out. They likely did the best they could.

Now That you Know Them.

Fear and ignorance cannot be eliminated. We must seek out control of them as they are good at controlling us. Complacency and indecisiveness can be all but snuffed through changes in habit.

These traits can be true disease, as we'll discover as we develop an understanding of where they lead.

However, this doesn't mean you can't achieve consistent success in your life. With tremendous effort and building of new habits to replace the old, you will master control of self rather than your masters controlling of you.

You'll invite a richer family of traits into your life. The family of success.

A New Chapter

A new chapter in life begins by being open to yourself.